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Hi all,

Two things from your resident mod person.

Firstly: as you probably know, this community has had moderated membership for many years. This was to avoid people who are under 16 joining, as well as to avoid attention in snark communities, troll accounts, etc.

However, now that I've been left as more or less the only active mod, the effort of going through the membership queue is getting too much, and I'm going to try relaxing it for a while to see what happens. Posts to the community will continue to be moderated, but people will be able to freely join and comment. With any luck it will just mean people don't wait so long to get through, but if we start getting trolls, or I end up moderating away hundreds of 'so s/he smiled at me does that mean s/he likes me?!' posts from 14 year olds, I'll put it back. If you have any thoughts over the next few weeks let me know.

Additionally, I'm making it so posting friends-only is optional rather than automatic. Your posts can now be public if you prefer/don't mind. I think this gives people looking to join the community a better idea of what's there. You can of course still keep stuff locked to members only if you prefer.

Secondly: this is the new 'Contact The Mods' post. You can use this to let us know of any problems or errors, whether administrative or with the behaviour of other community members. All responses to this post will be screened by default, but may be unscreened if they're useful to keep visible.

Thanks all for making datinandrelatin such a fun place to be :)



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Mar. 8th, 2013 01:41 am (UTC)
Hi there,
Just a thought; if the change in moderation creates disaster you could ask for more volunteers to help you moderate.; and I would be happy to help there.
Mar. 8th, 2013 08:34 am (UTC)
Thanks! If it doesn't work out then I definitely will ask for more volunteers. The possibility only really occurred to me after I wrote this post, since technically I'm not the head mod and able to appoint others - but I just haven't heard from anyone else in a while.
Mar. 8th, 2013 08:45 am (UTC)
Yeh; LJ has certainly taken a back seat for a lot of people lately. :(
Mar. 8th, 2013 05:06 pm (UTC)
LJ has made a lot of (strange) changes with their community moderation features. The good thing is even if you're not head mod and/or the head mod is MIA, you are still able to add users as mods. The only thing you cannot do as a mod are deleting the community and removing mods/maintainers. Every other function remains the same. :)
Mar. 8th, 2013 05:13 pm (UTC)
Oh, that's no problem, I know how that all works. I meant it entirely in an interpersonal way, not a technical way - not that you could have known that from what I wrote!
Apr. 9th, 2013 03:45 am (UTC)
is this question okay to post?
hi there- i wanted to check on something before i posted, i didn't want to post anything without being sure if it's an appropriate post. i have a question about how to begin to build a relationship (with this awesome guy i met) from the starting point as a childhood sexual abuse/physical abuse/emotional abuse survivor with no previous dating experience. i'm looking for resources and wanted to ask the comm if anyone knew of any great books about dating after abuse for the FIRST time. that's all! . there will be no graphic details, it would only refer to sexual abuse by me saying "I'm a childhood sexual abuse survivor". so if you could let me know if that's okay to ask here, i'd SO SO SO appreciate it. thank you!
Apr. 9th, 2013 07:29 am (UTC)
Re: is this question okay to post?
Of course! Go right ahead.
Jun. 11th, 2013 09:57 pm (UTC)
Hi there! I've been wanting to join this community for a long time now but no one has got back to me. I'm able to view and watch this community but not able to post.
Please can you add me to the list?
Jun. 12th, 2013 12:17 pm (UTC)
As this post says, we no longer moderate membership. There is no queue for me to approve/reject. Are you sure you're not just missing the join link in the new profile design? It's at the top left of the page.
Jun. 12th, 2013 12:25 pm (UTC)
Hi, thanks for the response. I'm unable to post from my journal by selecting a community, however when I go to the community page I'm able to make a post from there. Any way I've figured it out. Thanks for the feedback!
Aug. 1st, 2013 12:00 pm (UTC)
hey there,
just wondering if posts on the community show up strait away or they have to be approved by someone? just wanting to know because i posted something and i cant find it.
Aug. 1st, 2013 01:52 pm (UTC)
Yep, I have to approve them. I usually get to them fairly quickly though :) yours is done.
Aug. 2nd, 2013 12:11 am (UTC)
thank-you very much ^_^
Oct. 8th, 2013 11:11 pm (UTC)
I just sent a question in but remembered I forgot to put in a cut. Should I re-submit with the cut?
Oct. 9th, 2013 01:00 pm (UTC)
That's okay, you can just edit your post. Thanks!
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